HOW STRONG IS YOUR WHY?

"When you know your why, it's easier to fight for your life, what you believe in and how you get through your circumstances" - Anonymous

Everyone I know, between the ages of five and ten, goes through the phase of asking the annoying question "WHY?" and if your parents are like mine, the answer to those questions were always: "BECAUSE I SAID SO!". Very few times did I ever get an explanation to my whys and I grew up very rarely asking important questions out of fear of getting yelled at or being annoying. This unfortunately spilled into my adulthood. The generic answer to my why is : " because that's just the way it is!" and move on to never address the subject again. Writing this down makes me realize how wild that is. LOL!

I'm 30 this year and there is a burning question I desperately need an answer to and the question is "WHY". I am questioning so many things for example: "why is the sky blue?" or " why did I choose the career path I'm on?" "why do I have the friends I have in my life?" " Why should my life partner choose me?" All these why's and no one to answer these questions but myself. So I have to do some digging. 

I was scrolling through tik tok and saw a video of a motivational speaker who said: " Figure out your why's. Your whys help you better understand who you are and the reason you're doing what you're doing. with a strong why, the how is easy. A strong why is a big thrust for success."  This made me think for hours about how I never really knew the reason for a lot of things. I just did them because that was the norm. I kind of spiraled I'm not going to lie. That was the day everything shifted for me. 

I became more intentional about my decisions. Who I let into my life. Who I have in my ears. What I want to do for the future. How I want my future to look like 3 - 5 - 10 years from now. What my goals actually are. I was just living to exist and now I'm asking all these questions to understand the deeper meaning of life and why things, people and life are the way that they are. 

Dear God, 

The season of asking tough questions and starting a bigger conversation has finally come. I do not know how to handle it because my head is full of realizations and many more questions. As I'm going through the eye opening season, I pray that I don't get lost in the search. I pray that I have the heart to accept the answers I find. I pray that as I go deeper into finding myself and understanding my purpose, that I have discernment along the way. To recognize right from wrong. 

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