PROCESS JOURNEY - ACCEPTING REJECTION

" Every decisions or non-decisions shifts the universe in a whole new direction. "

Life has been showing me where I'm being led to. And, I noticed that one route we're taking this season is the route of accepting rejection. How do I process rejection? Do I think that life owes me anything ? what decisions will I take when I don't get my way?

Since I was old enough to do it, I programmed my brain to avoid rejections at all cost. Like, I've always been able to think 20 steps ahead to know that if I put myself in this situation, it will play out like this. And once I figure out that the outcome will not play in my favor, I'll abort the mission swiftly. This cost me so many opportunities because I was limiting my abilities to hypothetical situations that could of turned out positive had I been bold enough to face my fears. You still with me ? 

So, this year, I told myself : "whatever, let's do it! what's the worst that can happen right?". Haha! Well, let's see; Uhm .. I applied for a process that I'm qualified for and wanted very badly. But I was told that I did not get it and was given no explanations whatsoever. That left me feeling sick the whole day. LOL! How come, I, as a planner, did not see this coming? and I kid you not, I tried to put my big girl chest out by saying: " whatever, we move" but I can't lie, I contemplated not trying again... EVER! 

But, in all action, there is a consequence followed by a lesson. So, walk with me …

I realized one thing, I was so focused on the end result that I didn't realize there is a lesson to learn in this. That's why I was so devastated. This year, I know that I will reach my goals. I've seen it and I know how it feels like. I know I am meant to learn in my rejection and I also have to learn to shift my mindset when I don't get my way especially when I'm not given a reason behind the " NO!".  Discipline is a part of it. I'm not even going to pretend like I have any. I don't! But It's a battle that I'm winning everyday so far.  I finally understand the quote that says: " faith without works is dead." Such a small quote but so profound to the trajectory my life is taking this year. 

All of this to say, understand that getting rejected is not the end of the road. Yes! it sucks. But, fall in love with the process and learn what needs to be learned at that point in time. There are so many doors to knock on and eventually, you will get a yes and when you do, you will have an extra layer of knowledge that will open other unexpected doors that will turn out better than what you expected. 

Dear God,
Thank you for reminding me to keep going. Yes! I almost gave up. But, you showed me again what the end results are. You reminded me that I shouldn't be too focused on the ending that I miss out on the journey itself. Keep giving me strength. And for this missed opportunity, I say, Yes. 



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