Thing's I've learned. Season 1. Ep.1

 THE CHOICE IS YOURS.

"Learn to say NO! saying NO is your right and no one can take that away from you. No one will put you in a bottle for saying no either." - Eddy Mwange

Welcome to a project/series I've been working on for awhile and am now introducing to the world. I took a long time releasing it because I was still stuck in the judgmental phase. I kept telling myself : " what if you're judged on the stories you decide to tell? are you going to delete them out of shame or keep them because they're a reminder that you've learned something you didn't know before?"

So I came to the conclusion of telling my stories and sharing what I've learned in hopes for it to help someone else. 

I was conversing with my brother one day. Hold on … let me rephrase that … I was getting LECTURED by my brother one day after picking me up from the police station. Yes. You read that right. That day I was so quiet. I was shaking. I was on the verge of crying and very much disappointed in myself and he noticed that.

On our way back from the station, he asked me: " why didn't you call me to come and pick you up that night?" I had no answers. So he proceeded on telling me that being able to say no is my right. I am aloud to say no without feeling uncomfortable or guilty. It's a part of growing up knowing that you're free to give an answer and stand on it without second guessing. He said that because he knows that this year, most of my bad decisions happened because I didn't say the magic word being simply "no". Had I mentioned that I was uncomfortable with something, the trajectory of my day would of changed to something different. 

All this to say, 

1. You have the absolute freedom to say no and not have to explain yourself further.

2. Being peer pressured is a thing but also standing firm in your decision changes everything.

3. " No. because, I don't want to" is also a valid answer. 

Dear God,

May my No's be NO and my Yes' be YES. Thank you for sending my brother to teach me this imperial lesson. I pray that I have a solid heart to stand firm on my words and to have the intelligence to make the right decisions based on those two options. 

Amen.

This is Episode 1 of the series "thing's I've learned" . An introduction to the many stories coming up. Stay tuned for more. 


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