BOUNDARIES.

 " Set your boundaries early on. Healthy boundaries help you see where the blurred lines are and teaches you to retrace them accordingly." - Gloria Mwange

I have boundary issues. I either don't know where they are and I overstep or I cannot handle them when they're set for me.

I know you're probably reading this and saying: " She only comes on here once a year, says what she needs to say and then vanishes like nothing happened. I bet she does it on purpose!"... okay you're probably right but you don't have to be so loud about it. sheesh ! LOL

Hear me out though.

I'd like to talk about boundaries today and how important they are. I'm talking about them because this season of my life is called "No Gloria, you don't have to take that. It's not okay!". Full disclosure, I have tendencies of going through life saying "it's okay" to EVERY...THING. Most times, it's to please others and other times, it's to convince myself that I'm okay with something when I know deep down I'm not. I think that by saying those two magic words, it makes people see me as this amazing person that never gets offended and is always calm, cool and collected. But, newsflash... It's not okay!

Bare with me; 

I had a conversation with a friend today. I haven't spoken to her in a very long time and one subject kept coming back and it was about boundaries. As we were talking, I had to ask myself: What are the boundaries I've set for myself and for the people in my life? What are the lines that are blurred and cannot be seen clearly? Are those lines salvageable? 

As the conversation kept going, I thought of the following: 

1.  You've always been a "yes woman" to everyone around you and it appears as though it's okay to be treated lesser than because it doesn't affect you. You'll move on from this. They know that you'll never retaliate and that you'll always forgive them no matter what. WHY?

2. Because you haven't set any boundaries, you put yourself and your time aside to tend to other things/people because they need you more than you need you. ex: Your goals and/or your Mental Health etc...

3. Due to your lack of boundaries, you found yourself uncomfortable in settings you were in because you didn't stand your ground when you needed to.

Dear you,

You are not responsible for carrying the burden of others while yours are still waiting to be picked up and dealt with. You're not to blame for decisions those you care for took on their behalf. You're responsible to remind yourself and everyone else about who you are.

Sincerely,

Tend to yourself.   

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